What would you give if you could?

What would you give if you could?

What would you give to those you love… if you could? I’d suggest it’s not about what we can buy.

A year ago I found this poem by Elaine V. Eamons in a child’s picture book. It captured my heart.

So much that I would give you

hovers out of my poor giving.

Song within your heart forever,

faith to end all doubt,

and laughter, warm and gold, 

when you begin to grow too serious.

And always near,

the good companionship of trees and birds;

and always, for your beauty-loving ear,

music when you have need of it

and words that pleasure you and rest you, softly spoken.

Unnumbered good days, peace of a starry night,

and love from dawn to dawn that’s an unbroken deep certainty in you…

I have no right to dream of it — but never doubt

I should give you such presents, if I could.

In addition to all those items mentioned in the poem above, I would add:

  • deep, rejuvenating sleep every night
  • healthy food when you’re hungry
  • loyal friends
  • hope for the future
  • the opportunity to pause and give thanks  – ThanksLiving!

Are all these things really out of our ability to give?

Could we influence in some small way?

What would you give if you could?

Leave a comment and add to the list!

Who comes to mind first when you think of giving?

What would you give if you could - PositiveThanksLiving #positivity #optimism #thankful #grateful

One of the phrases that stopped my reading was, “love from dawn to dawn that’s an unbroken deep certainty in you”.  Read more about feeling loved here.

A post I read last week held such beautiful parental love – it caused me to reflect on my relationship with our grown children and the newest adventure of being a grandparent.  Do you have the privilege of raising (or being a part of raising) a little one? Take a look at “While you were walking.


What is positive thanksliving?

Want to be prompted to be optimistic? #positive #thankful

Good friends help us appreciate the journey.

Good friends help us appreciate the journey.

Good friends help us appreciate the journey.

How would you identify a good friend? For me, loyalty is a necessary value. What other values would you identify in a good friend? Perhaps: empathetic, trustworthy, supportive, humorous…

Do you have any of those traits?

To get you thinking about your own ability to be a good friend, I’ve done some research. Here are five points I’ve found on how to be a good friend:

1 – Though you can’t calm the storm, you can walk with them through it. 

Being there – no advice or fixing – can be the way you’re a good friend.

2 – Not the same kind of weird, but you can appreciate their weirdness. 

Dis-similarity can be a joy – it creates opportunities to celebrate your differences as friends.

3 – Friendship doesn’t need to be a big thing.

Rather, it’s a million little things all woven together.

4 – Good friends will tell you what you need to hear – not just what you want to hear. 

They’re happy when you’re happy and sad when you’re sad and can empathize while nudging you toward a healthier state.

5. A friend gives – knowing full well the cost – expecting nothing in return. 

Being compassionate and giving while setting boundaries for both of you.

Are you a good friend to others?

Is there anything you’d add to the above list? (I’m pretty sure you could come up with more!)

We all have a ways to go before we’re perfect friends… but as long as we’re improving, we’re headed in the right direction. And sometimes it’s about being a good friend before we can identify those who are trying to be our friend.

How can you be a good friend – what will you change or do differently this year?

Good friends help us appreciate the journey - #positivityprompt #friendship #optimism

One of the things I have determined I will do in this next season is to pray more for my friends. Sometimes that’s the only thing a friend can do to help…

I’ll also be re-reading this book:

Good friends are positive - this is a great book to remind yourself of that fact!

 

 

 

 

 

Grief is yet another way to express love.

Grief is yet another way to express love.

Life goes on.

And as positive as that statement is, it can be a jarring reality when we are working through a sad goodbye. Photos are an important part of grieving, as is reviewing memories. The act of grieving may never end, but it does change. It softens and the edges fray…

We want to say, “You should be here!” But that person or situation has carried on, without us.  It’s possible to be whole, to rebuild, to find new dreams, or re-shape old ones. But first, we need to grieve. If someone you know is walking this path, give them the latitude to grieve.

Grief is yet another way to express love.

Love strong and deep, even as life goes on. 

Let grief demonstrate love - strong and deep - even as life goes on. #positivethanksliving #grief #grieving #loss

“Most do not understand the importance of grief and how to process our complicated feelings. Grief is God’s gift to help us say goodbye to someone or something precious to us. We can’t embrace the good that is still in our lives without processing our grief in healthy ways.”

~ Kim Frederickson

Be the reason someone believes in the goodness of people, even as they process their grief.

 

 

 

You have great worth.

You have great worth.

As imperfect as we all are, we do have worth. Great worth.

Did you hear me?

You have great worth.

Your self worth is not dependent on another person accepting you, affirming you, helping you, believing you, admiring you, approving of you, buying into your ideas, or not, or anything else outside of yourself.

You have great worth because you are here.

You were born for a purpose.

Even if no other human on this planet can understand that, you still have great worth. Perhaps, in this moment, even you can’t pinpoint why you were put on this earth, however, you do have great worth. I’m convinced of it… God does not make mistakes.

You are not a mistake.

You have value.

Regardless.

It doesn’t matter how old or young you are. Your physical appearance, perceived ability or inabilities will not have an impact on the person you’ve been designed to become. Even if you are struggling right now with horrible issues – seen or unseen – there will be a way through. There will.

Because you have great worth.

Is it hard to believe it?

Is it hard to believe you have great worth?

OK. It could be that believing in your own worth is hard at times. Maybe all the hoopla and hoorays about starting the new year fresh is painful to hear and read. Maybe you’re afraid. Perhaps you can’t see a way forward right now… (even if on the outside you’re putting up a good front. Or not.)

Alright. OK. Take a breath. And another. One more breath.

Is there someone in your life who can believe for you – can someone believe you have great worth – and do it on your behalf? Just for a bit. Can that person believe in your worth, until you’re strong enough to believe it yourself?

I believe you have great worth.

If you’re reading this, know that I’m thinking of, and writing to YOU.

Yes – you.

Don’t give up.

Put that alcohol, that drug, that 50th eclair down. You have great worth. I’ll believe it for you until you can believe it yourself. It will get better. You will make it through. The mess you feel you’re in will pass. Relationships can be renewed, rebuilt, re-imagined. Be kind to yourself. Any mistake you’ve made… God can forgive.

There is grace available. Always.

Why?

Because you have great worth.

You have great worth. You were made for a purpose - even if it's hard to believe right now. #positivethanksliving

May the grace of the Lord Jesus Christ, and the love of God, and the fellowship of the Holy Spirit be with you all.

2 Corinthians 13:14

Want to feel and explore the love of God – read this.


NOTE:  is there someone in your sphere of influence who you sense is struggling? Reach out. Tell that person that they have worth – that they matter. It will make a difference. (Others did that for me – that’s how I can know.)  And if they can’t believe – yet – then believe it for them.

 

 

The value of a moment.

The value of a moment.

This first day of a new year has me sifting through conflicting emotions.

People I cherish are celebrating the birth of a long awaited baby. Oh, what joy in a dream realized.  And yet others are coping with the untimely death of a sister and friend – the first in their circle to pass into eternity. It feels like it’s too soon to let go of her, as everyone else believes they have decades still to live.

Same day – two diametrically opposite sets of emotions.

As this day unfolds for me, I’m going through the collections my mother has amassed over her 84 years. It’s a small apartment, but it’s full. I’m trying to help her decide what is necessary for the next chapter in her life, and what she can let go of – either to someone else (not me) or into a garbage. She’s sorting through physical artifacts that mirror the emotions of the other people I referenced above. Good memories, sad ones, joyful experiences and tragic happenings. It’s all here in her stuff.

We are all the same – we will all experience the scale of events from joy to tears.

What do we do with it all?

Sometimes you will never know the value of a moment until it becomes a memory. #positive #thankful #positivethanksliving #positiveprompt

The value of a moment.

Do we know the value of each happening at the moment it occurs? Not always. Just as Dr. Seuss says, “Sometimes you will never know the value of a moment until it becomes a memory.” 

Even the bad moments can create valuable memories.

Maybe that needs to be our goal as we go through the days… creating value in the moments, regardless of the emotions – good or bad…

Maybe?

What do you think?

How will you mine the value of a moment – this year?

Even the bad momentscan become valuable memories. #positivethanksliving #positivity #optimism #optimisticoutlook

Kindness is a good way to mine even the bad moments. Here are 25 ideas on how to be kind for no reason… 

Ephesians 4:31-32
Let all bitterness and wrath and anger and clamor and slander be put away from you, along with all malice. Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you.

Be kind. Always. With yourself and others.

Be kind. Always. With yourself and others.

Be kind. Always. With yourself and others.

It’s rare to know how much someone else is hurting…

Even if you’re standing next to them…

(Regardless – even if you’re their spouse, parent, sibling, best friend, significant other, and especially if they’re a stranger.)

That person could be feeling totally broken, but we couldn’t realize.

Make kindness a habit. Always. No matter the provocation. 

A few years ago I had a heart-breaking experience with a grouchy security guard at a library in Florida. We had been traveling fulltime for a while and regularly used the WiFi at the public libraries to work during the day. This was the only library, over the space of two years, that had a “be silent” policy and a guard to back it up.

He prowled the stacks of books seeking those talking out loud or on their mobile cell phone to “shush” them with a scowl and to point to the outside door. (Yes, he found me twice – I was “that” woman.)  It both humiliated me and made me grumpy too, even though I was clearly in the wrong.

At the end of the day, I sat outside on a bench waiting for Rob to pick me up. (The truck was parked a fair ways away.) I saw the grumpy guard on another bench. It was so tempting to ignore him. And yet…

Be Kind. Always. To yourself and others.

(Do you ever get those inner promptings? I do. And I’ve learned not to ignore them.)

So I got up and walked over to the grumpy guard’s bench and sat beside him. I started the conversation about the weather. (You’ll find that’s often the opening line with a Canadian… I don’t know why.) Since it was Florida in the winter, the sun was shining and warm, it was a good start. Anyway. He began to share.

He shared his whole life story with me – I guess I appeared to be a friendly ear. 

He hadn’t had an easy life. And the latest blow was his cancer diagnosis.

The grumpy guard was scheduled for treatment the next week and he was afraid. He wasn’t on speaking terms with his siblings and It didn’t seem like he had a support system around him. But for those few moments, I was privileged to listen and put a hand on his arm to convey that someone cared.

He told me he believed in God, so I assured him that I would pray for him. By the time Rob pulled up in the truck I had gotten a few smiles out of that grumpy guard. I hope, with all my heart, that my kindness made a difference. Even if it was for only a few moments.

There was no way I would have known his story. And his fear, hurt, loneliness, and isolation. I’m chagrined that I just saw an old man who “shushed” me. At least at first. However, I’m not going to beat myself up – I’ve learned from that experience. Hopefully, I won’t make the same mistake again.

Be kind. Always. With yourself and others.

There’s great power in kindness. Regardless.

Want ideas? Here are 25 easy ways to add kindness to your day.

Be kind. Always. With yourself and others. #positivethanksliving #kindness