The above quote is from this post by Tom Corley. In his post, he’s talking about toxic people and then contrasts them with positive people. He suggests we surround ourselves with other positive people.
Tom’s post got me thinking… there are at least 8 ways positive people help other people’s outlook on life. (I’m guessing they’re more than eight… maybe you can add some.)
Rather than overwhelm you with all eight right now, the rest will come to you one every day for the next eight days. Little bites to consider.
There’s every chance that none of us will be good at all eight – even if we are pursuing positivity. No worries. Optimists always know there’s room for improvement.
Here we go:
#1 of 8 Ways Positive People Help Other People’s Outlook
1 – Positive People acknowledge the truth and manage the overflow.
There are some truly overwhelming events which cause ripples of anxiety, fear, pain and doubt in every life. Not every happening is good.
A positive person can see and determine the truth in these events while (eventually) putting a plan in place to handle each ripple.
These plans help other people’s outlook because everyone feels better when there’s a plan. A direction or plan adds a feeling of hope. Positive people find hope even in the worst circumstances.
Is finding hope in a difficult circumstance one of your strengths?
If you can acknowledge the truth, make plans to manage the overflow and find hope… you might be a positive person!
I have a friend who uses a humorous response when he doesn’t want to participate. He says, “Count me out!” And then he smiles, because he’s not being negative, but rather leaving the space, funds and time for those activities which align with his chosen values.
What are you currently saying “no!” to?
What would make you healthier, wealthier and wiser if you did say “NO!”?
Dave Ramsey has focused for years on providing options for those who want to have peace with what some call the “money monster”.
Our family has a favorite classic movie called “My Man Godfrey”. We often reference one part when we talk about money…. if you’re in a hurry then skip to minute 1:03 (And if you can’t see the video player – try this link directly to YouTube.)
We are joking, of course, when we reference money as the “Frankenstein Monster”. Well… sort of.
Budgeting is one part of that peace with money. But not all of us see the idea of budgeting as a positive idea.
How about you? Are you comfortable with working within the boundaries of a budget? Whether it’s an old-fashioned pen on paper, a spreadsheet, or an app, have you found a way to:
Write down your total income.
List your expenses.
Subtract your expenses from your income.
Track your spending to see if your spending is aligning to your plan.
These four steps are expanded here. And there’s an app for that budgeting idea also. I’m sure there are many ways to make and follow a budget… just try searching for “How to make a budget.” and you’ll be reading for quite a while.
I think the last part of this quote by Dave Ramsey is poignant:
A budget is telling your money where to go… instead of wondering where it went.
If you wonder where your money went at the end of the month – or when you fill out your income tax forms – perhaps it’s time to discover – or re-discover – what working with a budget might feel like. Maybe it won’t be as bad as you might think?
Do you know what you really want? I’m referring to the things you want to own, the places you want to visit, the activities you’d like to invest in, etc.
Consider: If you were to make a list of these items and divide them into three columns, “must have”, “should have”, and “be nice to have”, what would the ratio be? 30/30/40 or 80/10/10 or…
I challenge you to try this exercise. You might be surprised. And I’m guessing that if you looked at your list when it’s complete, you might replace some of the words with other words, and you might erase some items all together.
Here’s a little PDF to download with those three columns – click HERE – and print!
Why am I suggesting this activity?
Too often we have these unspecified “wants” floating around in our head, and it leads to feeling dissatisfied with where we currently are.
Here are 3 ways you might combat that feeling of dissatisfaction:
From reading and experience, I’m realizing that
defining your needs versus wants,
learning positive personal finance habits,
and being thankful for exactly what I have right now
are powerful tools in the fight to feel a positive movement forward in finances. Am I there right now? Nope. But I’m progressing.
Personal Finance: It isn’t about getting rich. Learning personal finance is about using money as a tool to get what you actually want.
What about personal finance “teachers” or models?
Dave Ramsey’s Financial Peace program is a valuable tool to move forward in your personal finances.
I receive an email every day from an accountant who focuses on Rich Habits. He describes what he has discovered after years of researching the daily success habits of his wealthiest clients Nothing he suggests is woo-woo or get-rich-quick, rather the habits he suggests are quite logical and do-able for anyone at any age or stage. I’ve also read a couple of his easy-to-read books. I’m guessing it’s nothing we’ve not heard before, but he does have a very down-to-earth way of stating things. And his habits encompass much more than doing stuff with dollars and cents. But it all makes sense.
Do you have any personal finance people you’ve learned from and would recommend?
Could you share what you like about those people/programs? This is an area in which I’d like to grow in a positive way, and maybe your recommendation could add value to all of us! Please leave a comment!
However, just to be clear, security does not come from money, rather we should seek God’s wisdom.
Those who trust in their riches will fall, but the righteous will thrive like a green leaf.