Sticky Positive Thoughts

Sticky Positive Thoughts

What sticks in your brain? Have you ever heard a melody and it kept going ’round and ’round in your head for the rest of the day (or night)? If you like the song, then that’s OK – but if you don’t… well, it can drive you batty!

And it’s the same with our thoughts. Sometimes the thoughts we think are helpful for our behavior, and sometimes they aren’t.

Wouldn’t it be good to have sticky positive thoughts going ’round our head rather than those stinky negative ones?

Sticky Positive Thoughts

Let’s get some sticky positive thoughts into our brains… Do any of these resonate with you?

  1. I’m loved and wanted.
  2. My time will come – I can be happy when others succeed.
  3. God supplies all my needs.
  4. I am able and capable. I can.
  5. If I fail, I’ll fail forward.
  6. Positivity is my first choice.
  7. I’m thankful for all things.
  8. I have a spirit of power, love and a sound mind.
  9. My goals are my focus – I don’t play the comparison game.
  10. If I’ve learned something then I’ve succeeded.
  11. Stopping to smell the roses is a joy in my life.
  12. When I give, I do it with my whole heart.
  13. Excellence is my calling.
  14. The peace of the Risen One abides with me.
  15. Challenges are opportunities to grow and improve.
  16. Feelings are not facts – I stop and think before I speak and act.
  17. I have all the time I need.
  18. Being organized is fun.
  19. I have hope for the future.
  20. I have great value.
  21. I’m thankful for now – I can see the joy in today.
  22. Prayer provides my strength.
  23. I invest in relationships by celebrating the little things.
  24. My waiting is never wasted.
  25. It’s OK to say “no”.

What do you say to yourself to think positive thoughts? Take a couple from the list above and write them down – put them in prominent places around your space to nudge you into optimisic thinking.

(I have three sentences on my night-table. They’re Scripture verses – ones that hold great meaning for me. They adjust my thinking when I find myself sliding into a negative spot.)

Find some sticky Positive Thoughts and nurture an optimistic outlook!

(It can’t hurt, can it?)

Be thankful for the one. It starts with one.

Be thankful for the one. It starts with one.

Be thankful for the one. One step forward, one page written, one child encouraged, one heart strengthened, one person eating well, one bed made, one load of laundry folded, one desire fulfilled, one prayer answered, one smile, one…

Never underestimate the one thing.

Every book began with a page of writing, and every blog began with that first post. A relationship begins with a smile between two people. The knowledgable person began their journey with one item of information. New forests begin with one tree. (I was reminded by this post.) Revolutionary technology begins with an idea. Each business starts with one client.

One. It could be the start of something big!

I’m encouraging you to be thankful for one thing – that first item, or the next one thing on your list. Why? Because it has value. (And yes, I’m talking to myself also.)

It’s so easy to gloss over what you’ve already accomplished because you’re desperately focused on all you have yet to add to your resume.

Consider this tweet from Simon Sinek:

One way to appreciate the “joy of the start” is by being thankful.

Be thankful for the one thing.

I challenge you to write down what you’re thankful for – today. The one thing. Just one thing. What one action have you taken that holds value? (And value is subjective – you decide.) Here are some ideas on how to record it:

  • write it on your bathroom mirror (I like these kids’ washable crayons.)
  • use a sticky note and put it on your microwave (’cause we usually stand in front of it as we count down the seconds)
  • get the 365 gratitude app for your phone

Maybe you already do this “being thankful” in some form? 

If so…  YAY you!  Leave a comment on how you’ve developed being thankful – where do you record it? Do you add those items that you’re accomplishing?

Or leave a comment on what your ONE thing is that you’re thankful for doing today!

Let’s all celebrate – together – taking one action to move forward.

… and then record it again tomorrow.

And the day after.

Consistently.

Until your microwave is filled with sticky notes or your app has 365 notations, or you can’t see yourself in the bathroom mirror anymore because it’s so full of those “one” actions!

Be thankful for the one. It all begins with one thing - one action forward. Consistently. #positivethanksliving #positivity #optimism #thankfulness #gratitude

You can. Yes. It’s just that simple.

The value of a moment.

The value of a moment.

This first day of a new year has me sifting through conflicting emotions.

People I cherish are celebrating the birth of a long awaited baby. Oh, what joy in a dream realized.  And yet others are coping with the untimely death of a sister and friend – the first in their circle to pass into eternity. It feels like it’s too soon to let go of her, as everyone else believes they have decades still to live.

Same day – two diametrically opposite sets of emotions.

As this day unfolds for me, I’m going through the collections my mother has amassed over her 84 years. It’s a small apartment, but it’s full. I’m trying to help her decide what is necessary for the next chapter in her life, and what she can let go of – either to someone else (not me) or into a garbage. She’s sorting through physical artifacts that mirror the emotions of the other people I referenced above. Good memories, sad ones, joyful experiences and tragic happenings. It’s all here in her stuff.

We are all the same – we will all experience the scale of events from joy to tears.

What do we do with it all?

Sometimes you will never know the value of a moment until it becomes a memory. #positive #thankful #positivethanksliving #positiveprompt

The value of a moment.

Do we know the value of each happening at the moment it occurs? Not always. Just as Dr. Seuss says, “Sometimes you will never know the value of a moment until it becomes a memory.” 

Even the bad moments can create valuable memories.

Maybe that needs to be our goal as we go through the days… creating value in the moments, regardless of the emotions – good or bad…

Maybe?

What do you think?

How will you mine the value of a moment – this year?

Even the bad momentscan become valuable memories. #positivethanksliving #positivity #optimism #optimisticoutlook

Kindness is a good way to mine even the bad moments. Here are 25 ideas on how to be kind for no reason… 

Ephesians 4:31-32
Let all bitterness and wrath and anger and clamor and slander be put away from you, along with all malice. Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you.

Be thankful for now.

Be thankful for now.

Be thankful for now.

Is that difficult sometimes? Yes. It can be.

I’ve been there.

If you’re looking at your “now”, and it’s so far from what you want or what you had, it can feel discouraging. Our inner push to set goals or our outer need for achievement and affirmation can poison our current spot.

Be thankful for now.

Take care; we can get all caught up in our “dreams” and striving for what we want, that we forget there is joy right now.

Here. This moment holds joy.

Look for the joy in the story you’re living.

(Stop. See. Feel. Taste. Touch. Smell. Experience.)

  • the voice of someone who loves you is joy
  • the arms of a child wrapping around your neck is joy
  • the sweetness of chocolate on your tongue is joy
  • the scent of autumn on the air is joy
  • the melody in a song is joy
  • the warmth of a smile is joy

Is everything perfect?

No.

Do you have everything you want?

No.

But your story, right now, holds some joys.

(Leave a comment with one joy you are experiencing… regardless if your story isn’t the one you would like to be living.)

Be thankful for now.

Be thankful for now - Look for the JOY in the story you're living.

Gratitude – Happiness doubled by wonder.

Gratitude – Happiness doubled by wonder.

Happiness doubled by wonder – that’s what can grow out of being thankful and living a grateful life.

I would maintain that thanks are the highest form of thought, and that gratitude is happiness doubled by wonder.

Gilbert K. Chesterton

It’s not that simple, though. And we shouldn’t be surprised, I guess, as everything that truly has worth needs effort to shore up the action.

Is being thankful easy for you?

I think all of us would like to believe that we are thankful people. (It’s almost indisputable that we have many, many things to be thankful for…)

Maybe our parents insisted we write a thank you card after receiving a gift, which began a habit which continued into adulthood. Or not.

Perhaps we use the words “thank you” a few times a day when our spouse or wait-staff hand us something to eat. Or we respond with thanks when a stranger, co-worker or loved-one does something to benefit our well-being.

It’s even possible that we journal or list those items we are grateful for each day. For example, I have an app on my phone called Gratitude 365 – it’s especially useful because my phone is with me all day, every day. I snap a photo and write down all I can think of that causes me to be thankful. Robert and I have made lists of more than 100 items we’re thankful for – you’d be surprised how easy it is to do this.

But does all this thankfulness lead to a higher level of thought and bring about a happiness doubled by wonder?

Happiness doubled by wonder. Really?

I’m going to suggest it’s not the action of cataloging thankfulness that brings about happiness… (though maybe it begins there). It’s not saying, “thank you” that makes a difference in our happiness.

We need to pause to feel thankful.

First pause. Then feel.

After those steps, perhaps our thoughts can rise above mundane and petty annoyances.

When I take the time to really feel that gratitude – I must be candid – I am humbled.

I know my mistakes and failings. I know my smelly inner dialogue. And there is a scary and startling wonder that comes from realizing I’ve been gifted (often despite my efforts) with an immense list of things to be thankful for… relationships, physical abilities, and items, circumstances both avoided and experienced, and a good future, in my view, granted by the grace of God through the sacrifice of Jesus’ life.

It’s not comfortable.

That wonder isn’t always a comfortable feeling. And the happiness which grows from the wonder makes me realize how very blessed I am. Which, again, isn’t always comfortable.

Should feeling thankful be comfortable? What do you think?

What do you feel?

How does being thankful – feeling grateful – work in your life? Has it made a difference? How? Please share your insights…

Is feeling thankful easy for you? Comfortable? Is there a sense of happiness and wonder when you feel thankful?

gratitude happiness doubled by wonder

Want more prompts to be thankful?

Here are a few articles on the specifics of being thankful – filled with gratitude…

Looking on the bright side – here are a few ways.

Looking on the bright side – here are a few ways.

Looking on the bright side – can you do that? All the time?

If you’re anything like me, it takes real effort to continue to look on the bright side – regardless. But even though it takes effort, (and sometimes huge effort), it never hurts me in the long run. In fact, it makes my life better, and all those around me feel it.

Once I’ve found the “bright side”, and go with it, then other aspects where negativity could creep in seem easier to manage.

Is it simple to look for the positive in life? Not always.

 Looking on the bright side even when it’s hard.

Here are some ways to encourage yourself to focus on what’s good in a circumstance:

  • Review all that you could be thankful for in this situation. Make a list. Dig. Here’s a post on thankfulness that will give you practical ideas.
  • Express your thankfulness in a concrete way: words, or actions.
  • Take time to ponder. We allow the rush of life to overwhelm us and by default the place we end up is negative. Use a timeout to process what’s going on. Prayer always helps me.
  • Make a pro and con list on paper. (or your computer) Seeing the issues in black and white will often clarify those nebulous clouds of gloom and doom. Talk it through with a trusted friend. A person who loves you can see situations differently. Neither of you is right or wrong. Sometimes it’s good to have a discussion to see another’s view.
  • Get out of your own way. In the Lead Like Jesus Encounter, there’s a part called “Ego’s Annonymous”. It’s designed to help the participants recognize we all struggle  every day with pride and fear – it’s an addiction. As a Christian, I see EGO as “edging God out”. Most times, at least for me, when I can’t find the bright side that’s at the root.

How about you?

What techniques do you use to successfully find your positive place?

PositiveThanksLiving is about being strategically optimistic – not just pie-in-the-sky everything is perfect. Living as an optimistic and thankful person takes work – but it’s worth it!

A few ways to look on the bright side – even when it’s hard. Be strategically optimistic.

Looking on the bright side - PositiveThanksLiving

Tomorrow holds promise – be thankful today.

Tomorrow holds promise – be thankful today.

Tomorrow holds promise.

Positivity is knowing there are still good days to come even when today is not good.

Hang on.

It’ll get better.

What can you be thankful for in this moment?

Write it down.

(Yes, I’m talking to you – pick up your pen… it’ll just take a moment… but the benefit will last all day. Come on, now… )

Notice the good stuff today, give thanks and look forward.

Tomorrow holds promise.

Tomorrow holds promise. Positivity is knowing there are still good days to come even when today is not good

“For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.” 

Jeremiah 29:11

Need more ideas to be thankful? Click here to read this post.

2 of 8 Ways Positive People Help Other’s Outlook

2 of 8 Ways Positive People Help Other’s Outlook

Positive People look for things for which to be thankful.

Gratitude as a way of life is part of a positive person’s belief system. Even if they’re not a born optimist, positive people have trained themselves to be grateful.

Giving thanks helps other’s outlook by redirecting them to look at what’s good.


This is the 2nd of 8 ways Positive People help other people’s outlook on life.

8 ways positive people help other people’s outlook on life – I’m guessing they’re more than eight… maybe you can add some?

I won’t overwhelm you with all eight right now, rather, I’ll share one every day for the next eight days for you to think about… Here’s the first one from yesterday.

There’s every chance we won’t be good at all eight – even if we are pursuing becoming a Positive Person. No worries. Optimists always know there is room for improvement.

Invite someone to join you inside.

Invite someone to join you inside.

Give thanks for all the areas where you’re on the “inside”. Now, invite someone else inside also!

“On the inside.”

What does this term mean to you? It’s probably not about being indoor or outdoor… rather it’s a carry-over from our days in a school or institution.

When Rob and I stopped into a Christian bookstore, one book I leafed through was called, “We Saved You a Seat – Bible Study Book: Finding and Keeping Lasting Friendships” by Lisa-Jo Baker. One of the many statements that stood out to me was about being dissatisfied where we are…

“The thing we don’t realize in highschool, and sometimes we still haven’t learned during the mini-van driving years, is that everyone is on the outside of something.

But that is only half the story.

We are all, each one of us, also on the inside of something

— often without even realizing it.” 

Think of the relationships you have with people.

Are you thankful for those you are already connected to?

Maybe if we stop comparing ourselves

in our perceived “in” or “out” spot,

and began giving thanks,

inviting and encouraging others to join us,

our lives would hold more joy…

That’s my thought… what does this bring up in you?

Some of us might find making new friends easy. Some of us might feel daunted.

I’m guessing we might share some discouragement from the past – being or not being part of a group for !oh! so many reasons. Is it time to leave that discomfort behind?

We are all adults now.

And yet…

Being candid, that’s one reason I picked up the book from where today’s Positivity Prompt originates. Friendship amongst women has its ups and downs. It shouldn’t. But it does.

We all need to practice forgiveness, overlooking hurts, and serving each other. 

And where some believe this topic is only for teens, consider again. If you’ve ever moved to a new city/state and began forging friendships anew, you might be revisiting some of the issues you felt when you were a teen.

Friendship… making friends and feeling on the “inside/outside” can be difficult.

So be encouraging, and invite a new person into your “inside” friendships… start today!

Who will you reach out to and invite “inside”?

And for whom will you give thanks that you’re already on the “inside”?

If you’re interested, here’s the book – the link is an affiliate link. We saved you a seat - stop fighting to find a way in

Friendship starts with you - Be thankful for all the areaswhere you're on the "inside" - now go and invite someone else "inside" also. #friendship

 

 

 

Kindess: A seed to grow gratitude.

Kindess: A seed to grow gratitude.

Your kindness has an impact. It’s more than just that act, it’s a seed for something greater.

Perhaps you’ll never see how your act of kindness changes the world around you, but I believe we sow seeds with our kindnesses from which gratitude will grow. Sometimes those seeds will languish, and do nothing. But there will be times where those seeds will grow into a blossom of gratitude.

If you see value in a being thankful, then create an environment where others will have specific reasons to feel thankful themselves.

Your generous kindness

creates the environment

for gratitude to blossom in others.

Do you need ideas on practical acts of kindness? Here are 25 ideas on how to be kind for no reason. 

Now, imagine your world filled with thankful human beings. You can make it happen. It starts with your kindnesses – random and simple or deliberate and complex.

When you are kind you are building a more beautiful space. And that is something to be thankful for… yes?

Kindness is a seed from which gratitude grows

Kindness is a seed from which gratitude grows - #thankfulThursday

The habit of whispering “thank you”.

The habit of whispering “thank you”.

The small, seemingly insignificant habit of whispering our thanks will change us first, and then everything around us.

Begin this new habit today – every time you see, feel, hear, taste or experience a wonderful moment, whisper, “Thank you, God.

Experience how your world will change…

The small, seemingly insignificant habit of whispering our thanks will change us first, and then everything around us.

A book on gratitude/thankfulness I read sparked this idea. The author suggested that creating this habit is “like a mustard seed of power” that changes our character.

As our character changes, so will the world around us.

Sometimes, I think, we are looking for that heroic act or magnificent deed which will make an impact at one fell swoop. Rather, it may be our little, positive habits can make more of a difference for everyone than magnificence or heroics. It’s an inside and then outward activity…

What do you think?a new habit of whispering - thank you - first changes you and then everything around you

Gratitude Makes You Happy

Gratitude Makes You Happy

Want more happiness? Focus on gratitude.

David Steindl-Rast is a Catholic Benedictine Monk, who has divided his time between periods of hermit’s life and extensive lecture tours on five continents. Here’s one of his videos – watch it with earbuds or headphones if you can – and if you can’t see the video player, then click here to go to the video on  YouTube

2018 is my year to focus on Gratitude/Thankfulness. 

When I read and research the topic of Gratitude/Thankfulness, Br. David’s writings are referenced by most, including in Janice Kaplan’s book  “The Gratitude Diaries”.  Janice Kaplan took a year to focus on gratitude and I liked her book so much that I purchased a physical copy after renewing the library copy multiple times. I’ll be sharing more from her book on future #thankfulThursdays along with more from Br. David.

So, if you’re looking to be happier in life – focus on Gratitude.

“It is not happiness that makes us grateful. It’s gratefulness that makes us happy.

~ David Steindl-Rast

It is not happiness that makes us grateful. It’s gratefulness that makes us happy

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