Reach out to share your wish and obstacle.

Reach out to share your wish and obstacle.

Isolation is the dream killer. Reach out!

Reach out to share your wish and obstacle.

Then surround yourself with people who are dedicated to helping you overcome your obstacle.

These are Barbara Sher’s ideas. She says that, as humans, we are problem solvers. Even if we don’t like a person, should they pose a desire and an obstacle, we look for a solution to the obstacle. Isolation is the dream killer.


Reach out to share your wish and obstacle.

Do I agree with everything she teaches? Not fully. But it is interesting. And I do agree that being isolated doesn’t help overcome an obstacle.

Her stories are humorous and wonderful! Below you can watch a TEDx video of Barbara telling some of those stories. It’s an encouraging way to spend 20 minutes of your life. It’ll make you smile at the very least. (She’s an excellent story-teller.)

What’s your wish? What’s your obstacle?

Leave a comment – let’s see if we can help each other!

If you can’t see the video player below – go ahead & click HERE to go to YouTube to watch the video of Barbara Sher talk about how isolation is the dream-killer and you need to reach out and share!

Want more about achieving goals? Read THIS or explore this POST.

You are capable of so much – now go do it.

You are capable of so much – now go do it.

You are capable.

It’s time to stop thinking you can not  – and step up.

Move on. Reach out. Push forward. Lean into…

You are capable of so much!

Set your achievable goal. Make a plan. Now go do it.

And don’t discount a small goal. They count. Even if it’s a small goal, you’ll feel so much better about everything in your world when you reach it. And then you’ll be ready for the next small goal.

Set yourself up for success. Choose something to pursue that will be easy to reach – at least in the beginning. And if you have a large goal in mind, then divide it into smaller bits and pieces.

  • Want more business? Call one person and demonstrate you care about their needs. Keep track of your calls every day in a bullet journal. Lori Winslow, owner of The Organized Solopreneur has a course to get you started with Bullet Journaling. (I’ve purchased it and am going through it as part of my fall 2018 business learning.)
  • Do you need to move your body? Find one short exercise video on YouTube and move along with it. Now. (I like this one.)
  • Need to clean up? Gather all the garbage you can find and take it out. It’ll feel good. Subscribe to The Flylady. She provides a great framework to make cleaning and organizing easy.
  • Seeking a better relationship with someone? If you see them every day – smile at them. Or use these 10 ideas to celebrate as ways to connect.
  • Building a career? Get a library card and start reading. It’s free. Most libraries even provide access to digital books so you can read on an app on your smartphone. Ask someone with the career you want, to recommend a book. or a podcast, or a website they admire. Start a journal (or a bullet journal) to keep track of all you’re learning and want to learn.

Yes. You CAN. You are capable of so much.

Go get it. One small thing at a time. 

You are capable of so much - now go do it

You’ll see a change if you make one.

You’ll see a change if you make one.

You’ll see a change if you make one.

What are you waiting for?

If you’re waiting for something to happen in your life, maybe it’s time for you to take action.

Chicken or egg?

It’s so easy to look at our life and think it needs to change. That’s as far as we go.

And yet, we are the only ones who can make that change… take that action.

Maybe… you’ll see a change if you make one?

And we don’t need to be radical to see change. Start small. Really.

What one small change could you make?

  • if you’re waiting for better health… maybe eat something green every day?
  • what if you need more money in your bank account… maybe find something to sell?
  • what if you need more purpose in your life… maybe read a bit on the topic or seek a coach?

I know these little examples seem trite.

So what?

Sometimes a change starts with something small and insignificant. And many small, insignificant, seemly trite changes, add up. ( Read how thankfulness will make a change HERE. )

Then you’ll finally notice that positive change you’re seeking!

You’ll be the one taking action to make it happen. Instead of waiting.

(For me – writing a little bit every day for 30 days on living thankful and positive really adds up and hopefully, I can encourage many to be a bit more positive.)

You'll see a change if you make one - start small.

But what if this time is a time of waiting? Even in a time of waiting you can read, ponder, and pray. Those are actions, you know.

Where in your life could you make one small change?


Begin with positive thoughts to feel better

Begin with positive thoughts to feel better

Begin with positive thoughts and there’s a good chance you’ll “feel” better! Since you have control over both your thoughts and feelings, maybe try an experiment.

Want to feel better? Begin with positive thoughts!

Hurricane gust. Gentle breeze. How do you “feel”? Our feelings often shift according to the emotional “winds” in our life. Take control.

What if we first use our thoughts to frame and process our feelings?

Thoughts have great power and we’re the only ones who control them. Could we “feel” better by first inputting a positive thought?

(I think we could.)

To begin with positive thoughts, try these:

  • My world is filled with possibilities because I’m unique.
  • I’m thankful for _________, _________, _________.
  • Today will be a good day because I’m loved and respected.
  • I’m capable of so much. I just need to do it.
  • Every challenge today will help me grow.
  • I can make a difference in life just by smiling at others.
  • In every situation, there’s something to learn.
  • A person who can do “that” (something you’ve achieved) can handle today’s stuff.

What positive thoughts do you begin with to “feel” better?

Have you ever experienced this? Leave a comment – share your positive thought!

Begin with positive thoughts. Positive thoughts create positive feelings.

Want to see positive thoughts every day? Download and make a Positivity Garland!

Make a Positivity Garland - use the prompts, some string, and flowers.

Or meditate on this Scripture verse – write it out in your journal and respond to each of the eight points, one per day: What’s true in my life right now? What’s lovely in my life right now? etc.

… whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things. Phillipians 4:8


Growing in Wisdom and Patience

Growing in Wisdom and Patience

Wisdom and patience – are they synonymous? Is there a connection?

Rob, my husband, writes weekly about values in business and leadership.  The sentences below concluded his post last week.

 Have you ever noticed that when you sit with a wise person, they also seem to possess an immense amount of patience? They rarely seem to be in a hurry.

This is not because they no longer have any problems. Quite the contrary.

Their patience comes with the wisdom to know when they should wait and when they should act. Wise people also never forget the power of prayer.

Patience is the companion of wisdom.

Saint Augustine

Bonus: a great way to develop patience is to seek wisdom.

How are you growing in your wisdom and patience_ Patience is the companion of wisdom.

A few ideas on how to grow wisdom and patience:

The wisdom of Proverbs over time: For a few years, while we were traveling full time, Rob read and re-read and read over and over again (more than 9 times) the book of Proverbs in the Bible. Most mornings we’d chat about his insights. He recommends the pondering of Proverbs as a way to grow in wisdom… and pondering is an exercise in patience, as much as Proverbs is a gathering of wisdom.

Using opposing perspectives: Roger L. Martin, author of “The Opposable Mind: How Successful Leaders Win Through Integrative Thinking”, suggests that wise leaders can look at two opposing ideas and come up with their own solution through integrative thinking. Understanding and using two (or more) opposing views involves patience.

Reflective Thought: Wisdom isn’t about age or experiences. Simply living a long time, or having many experiences won’t necessarily equal wisdom. It’s the patient thought and reflection that may begin the process toward wisdom.

Reflective thinking turns experience into insight.
John Maxwell

Read this post if you’re needing patience in a relationship. And this post if you’re needing more ways to gather wisdom to get stuff right.

How are you growing in wisdom and patience?



Look to the Future – Make a List to Be, Do, and Have

Look to the Future – Make a List to Be, Do, and Have

Look to the future. Sure, you can learn from the past, but stop making the past your focus. It’s the future that holds promise!

“Instead of looking at the past,

I put myself ahead twenty years

and try to look at what I need to do now

in order to get there then.”

~ Diana Ross

Diana Ross is an American singer, songwriter, actress, and record producer. Her career began in 1959 with the Supremes, and she’s been going strong ever since. I’m guessing her view of looking 20 years into the future and doing what it will require has served her well!

Look to the future.

What’s life going to be like in 20 years for you? Nobody has a crystal ball to see the future, but you can look at where you’d like to be…

Where to start this looking into the future?

Just for fun, create three “20-things” lists as you look to the future:

  • be – 20 qualities you’d like to add/enhance in your character
  • do – 20 activities you’d like to try or get better at
  • have – 20 physical things you’d like to own (for a bit, anyhow)

Now – what could you do today to make it possible for you to experience something on this list?

Yes, I’ve done this to inspire me about my future. I’ve made lists with 30 things on them – because I find that if I keep on going and force myself to keep adding to the lists, after the first obvious items, then I get deeper into what I really value.

One of the items on my “do” list is to experience a River Cruise with Rob. That’s not in the budget right now, but if I save my pennies in the next 20 years…  I’ve told Rob that I’m going to get a large jar and put a photo of a cruise boat on a river on that jar, and we can add a dollar or two to give us a start. Another item on the “be” list is to be a better writer. I’m struggling with passive voice in my writing, so the next year will hold some grammar courses!

What’s on your lists for the future?

What one thing is on one of your lists (be-do-have) that you’d begin saving for today? Leave a comment!

Look to the future! Instead of looking at the past, I put myself ahead twenty years and try to look at what I need to do now in order to get there

Need some encouragement about the future? Read this!