“A gentle answer turns anger away.
But mean words stir up anger.”
Proverbs 15:1 NIVR
Ever tempted to respond in anger?
I found this quote by Eleanor Roosevelt:
Anger is one letter short of danger.
Wow, that is so true, huh? I’ve gotten myself into danger when I responding with anger. Nothing I wanted to accomplish happened.
Kindness. Gentleness. Try them instead of anger.
(Need some ideas on kindness? – Read this!)
Plant kindness. What grows from being kind to others is beautiful and nourishing.
Kind or Critical?
In case you were wondering, criticism is not kind. Criticism is like a poisonous weed.
I’m imagining criticism – that deliberate judgment of others – is like hogweed. Hogweed’s sap burns and scars.
If you try and mow or weed-whack a hogweed plant, it’ll just send up new growth. Isn’t that exactly like being judgmental? Start criticizing one action or aspect of a person’s character, and you’ll quickly find other points to criticize… And hogweed might appear to be Queen Anne’s Lace or Angelica, just like criticism can be disguised as helpful advice, but it’s not. Get involved in criticism and it’ll burn. And scar. You.
Plant a Garden of Kindness
Now, imagine a garden filled with beautiful flowers, fruit, and vegetables. It’s nourishing for the soul and body.
That’s just like kindness – when we watch others be kind, isn’t it a joy to behold? When we, ourselves, are beneficiaries of a kindness, isn’t it nourishing to every part of our life? And, when we are the authors of an act of kindness, isn’t it something we rejoice over with the other person?
Make this a day to sow seeds of kindness.
(Toss those critical thoughts/words on the burn pile!)
If you need some ideas on how to be kind read this – 25 Ideas – How to be kind for no reason.
How will you be kind today?
Come on back tomorrow for more benefits that flow from positivity!
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Goodness. It needs to begin somewhere…
Let goodness begin with you.
And if not now, then when?
Be the reason someone believes in the goodness of people.
But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control.
Against such things there is no law.
Galatians 5:22,23 NIV
What could be considered “goodness”?
- Go that extra mile when you see something is missing.
- Reach out to encourage, without expectation of return.
- Provide what’s needed – anonymously if possible.
- Smile even when you don’t feel like it.
- Clean up a mess, especially if you weren’t involved.
- Open doors for others – figuratively speaking.
- Be with someone. Just be. No words, or advice.
- Give a verbal hug to someone who has felt rejected.
- Let go of something. Release your anger or expectation, or…
- Care for something that’s not your responsibility.
What would you add to this list?
Who has been “good” to you? How have they demonstrated their goodness?
Your kindness has an impact. It’s more than just that act, it’s a seed for something greater.
Perhaps you’ll never see how your act of kindness changes the world around you, but I believe we sow seeds with our kindnesses from which gratitude will grow. Sometimes those seeds will languish, and do nothing. But there will be times where those seeds will grow into a blossom of gratitude.
If you see value in a being thankful, then create an environment where others will have specific reasons to feel thankful themselves.
Your generous kindness
creates the environment
for gratitude to blossom in others.
Do you need ideas on practical acts of kindness? Here are 25 ideas on how to be kind for no reason.
Now, imagine your world filled with thankful human beings. You can make it happen. It starts with your kindnesses – random and simple or deliberate and complex.
When you are kind you are building a more beautiful space. And that is something to be thankful for… yes?
At times our own light goes out and is rekindled by a spark from another person. Each of us has cause to think with deep gratitude of those who have lighted the flame within us.
~ Albert Schweitzer quote
Who has lit – or re-kindled – your flame?
Reach out to them today – say “thank you”.
Let kindness rule your day. Be kind for no reason!
How could you be kind today? (You can begin with your spouse and family!)
- Smile at everyone – regardless.
- Let the other person go first.
- Offer to share your treats with your co-worker. And if you don’t have any… get some to share.
- Listen with your full attention.
- Send a card just to say hello – for no reason at all!
- Donate an item.
- Take a moment to play with a child or listen/talk with an elderly person.
- Pick up some trash – or recycle a trashed item.
- Hold open a door for the next person or two.
- Be patient, even if it’s hard.
- Put a coin in a candy machine to surprise someone.
- Leave a larger than normal tip – double your cheque/bill if you can
- Write a “thank you for all you do” on a bill you’re paying.
- Give a friend a compliment (even if it’s online).
- Write a post-it note with something fun and leave it on a window/mirror.
- Invite someone to go for a walk or a drive.
- Go out of your way to say “thank you” all day.
- Fill a parking meter with the extra change in your car/pocket.
- Share a funny video with someone – there is never enough laughter in a day.
- Wave to a neighbor.
- Let the person behind you in the grocery line go first.
- Offer a cold bottle of water to the mail/UPS/FedEx carrier.
- Put an item or two into the “donate” box at the grocery store.
- Count to 10 or 20 instead of getting angry – rearrange your face into a smile.
- Neaten the space, even if you haven’t made it messy.
Being kind – deliberately – is a wonderful way to connect with people.
Leave a comment to add to the list!
It will just take a moment, but what a positive perk you can introduce to everyone in your life.
Download the above list – print it out – remind yourself!
Positive people know they’re loved, are thankful, encourage others, know the value of being encouraged themselves, and take positive action on their goals!
That’s what PositiveThanksLiving is all about!