Be kind. Always. With yourself and others.

Be kind. Always. With yourself and others.

Be kind. Always. With yourself and others.

It’s rare to know how much someone else is hurting…

Even if you’re standing next to them…

(Regardless – even if you’re their spouse, parent, sibling, best friend, significant other, and especially if they’re a stranger.)

That person could be feeling totally broken, but we couldn’t realize.

Make kindness a habit. Always. No matter the provocation. 

A few years ago I had a heart-breaking experience with a grouchy security guard at a library in Florida. We had been traveling fulltime for a while and regularly used the WiFi at the public libraries to work during the day. This was the only library, over the space of two years, that had a “be silent” policy and a guard to back it up.

He prowled the stacks of books seeking those talking out loud or on their mobile cell phone to “shush” them with a scowl and to point to the outside door. (Yes, he found me twice – I was “that” woman.)  It both humiliated me and made me grumpy too, even though I was clearly in the wrong.

At the end of the day, I sat outside on a bench waiting for Rob to pick me up. (The truck was parked a fair ways away.) I saw the grumpy guard on another bench. It was so tempting to ignore him. And yet…

Be Kind. Always. To yourself and others.

(Do you ever get those inner promptings? I do. And I’ve learned not to ignore them.)

So I got up and walked over to the grumpy guard’s bench and sat beside him. I started the conversation about the weather. (You’ll find that’s often the opening line with a Canadian… I don’t know why.) Since it was Florida in the winter, the sun was shining and warm, it was a good start. Anyway. He began to share.

He shared his whole life story with me – I guess I appeared to be a friendly ear. 

He hadn’t had an easy life. And the latest blow was his cancer diagnosis.

The grumpy guard was scheduled for treatment the next week and he was afraid. He wasn’t on speaking terms with his siblings and It didn’t seem like he had a support system around him. But for those few moments, I was privileged to listen and put a hand on his arm to convey that someone cared.

He told me he believed in God, so I assured him that I would pray for him. By the time Rob pulled up in the truck I had gotten a few smiles out of that grumpy guard. I hope, with all my heart, that my kindness made a difference. Even if it was for only a few moments.

There was no way I would have known his story. And his fear, hurt, loneliness, and isolation. I’m chagrined that I just saw an old man who “shushed” me. At least at first. However, I’m not going to beat myself up – I’ve learned from that experience. Hopefully, I won’t make the same mistake again.

Be kind. Always. With yourself and others.

There’s great power in kindness. Regardless.

Want ideas? Here are 25 easy ways to add kindness to your day.

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Anger is one letter short of danger.

Anger is one letter short of danger.

“A gentle answer turns anger away.
But mean words stir up anger.”

Proverbs 15:1 NIVR

Ever tempted to respond in anger?

I found this quote by Eleanor Roosevelt:

Anger is one letter short of danger.

Wow, that is so true, huh? I’ve gotten myself into danger when I responding with anger. Nothing I wanted to accomplish happened.

Kindness. Gentleness. Try them instead of anger. 

(Need some ideas on kindness? – Read this!)

Anger is one letter short of danger - Eleanor Roosevelt quote - - Be kind and gentle instead.

Plant Kindness

Plant Kindness

Plant kindness. What grows from being kind to others is beautiful and nourishing.

Kind or Critical?

In case you were wondering, criticism is not kind. Criticism is like a poisonous weed.

I’m imagining criticism – that deliberate judgment of others – is like hogweed. Hogweed’s sap burns and scars.

If you try and mow or weed-whack a hogweed plant, it’ll just send up new growth. Isn’t that exactly like being judgmental? Start criticizing one action or aspect of a person’s character, and you’ll quickly find other points to criticize…  And hogweed might appear to be Queen Anne’s Lace or Angelica, just like criticism can be disguised as helpful advice, but it’s not. Get involved in criticism and it’ll burn. And scar. You.

Criticism is a weed. Plant some flowers of kindness. PositiveThanksLivingPlant a Garden of Kindness

Now, imagine a garden filled with beautiful flowers, fruit, and vegetables. It’s nourishing for the soul and body.

That’s just like kindness – when we watch others be kind, isn’t it a joy to behold? When we, ourselves, are beneficiaries of a kindness, isn’t it nourishing to every part of our life? And, when we are the authors of an act of kindness, isn’t it something we rejoice over with the other person?

Make this a day to sow seeds of kindness.

(Toss those critical thoughts/words on the burn pile!)

If you need some ideas on how to be kind read this – 25 Ideas – How to be kind for no reason.

How will you be kind today?

Come on back tomorrow for more benefits that flow from positivity!

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Be the reason someone believes in the goodness of people.

Be the reason someone believes in the goodness of people.

Goodness. It needs to begin somewhere… 

Let goodness begin with you.

And if not now, then when?

Be the reason someone believes in the goodness of people.

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But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. 

Against such things there is no law.

Galatians 5:22,23 NIV

What could be considered “goodness”?

  • Go that extra mile when you see something is missing.
  • Reach out to encourage, without expectation of return.
  • Provide what’s needed – anonymously if possible.
  • Smile even when you don’t feel like it.
  • Clean up a mess, especially if you weren’t involved.
  • Open doors for others – figuratively speaking.
  • Be with someone. Just be. No words, or advice.
  • Give a verbal hug to someone who has felt rejected.
  • Let go of something. Release your anger or expectation, or…
  • Care for something that’s not your responsibility.
  • I’m sure there are more! What would you add?

Let’s become that “someone”!

Here’s a checklist with the items above…  make it a positive and thankful week and try checking off some or all of these ideas!

Be the reason others believe in the goodness of people

You can change the world – one person at a time.

 

Change your world one person at a time: Be the reason someone believes in he goodness of people! Try it - download a checklist and make it a positive and thankful week!
Kindess: A seed to grow gratitude.

Kindess: A seed to grow gratitude.

Your kindness has an impact. It’s more than just that act, it’s a seed for something greater.

Perhaps you’ll never see how your act of kindness changes the world around you, but I believe we sow seeds with our kindnesses from which gratitude will grow. Sometimes those seeds will languish, and do nothing. But there will be times where those seeds will grow into a blossom of gratitude.

If you see value in a being thankful, then create an environment where others will have specific reasons to feel thankful themselves.

Your generous kindness

creates the environment

for gratitude to blossom in others.

Do you need ideas on practical acts of kindness? Here are 25 ideas on how to be kind for no reason. 

Now, imagine your world filled with thankful human beings. You can make it happen. It starts with your kindnesses – random and simple or deliberate and complex.

When you are kind you are building a more beautiful space. And that is something to be thankful for… yes?

Kindness is a seed from which gratitude grows

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